In the beginning Jason was very closed to adoption. After we got married I talked with him on several occasions about it, but it would always end up becoming a fight. He felt that there was no need for it since we could have our own children so easily and the cost of adoption is so high in most cases. I knew it was going to be a long road trying to convince him that we needed to adopt. This is where the Lord stepped in to work on softening his heart. It started with me having major complications during my pregnancy with Eva and almost losing my life after her delivery. We knew that the risk for me ever being pregnant again was too high for us to take that chance. After much thought and prayer we made the permanent decision not to have any more kids biologically. I made Jason promise that if we made that decision that he would be open to discussing the option of adoption one day.
During the next two years after I had Eva I began doing some research on adoption and would share things with Jason every now and then to see how he reacted. I could tell he still wasn’t ready yet so I tried not to push the issue too much. I looked into international adoption thinking that maybe Jason would be interested if it was adopting from the Philippines since he had served his mission there, but I came to the realization that it was just too expensive for us to ever do. I decided that the best route for us would be to adopt through the foster care system or maybe take our chances with LDS Social Services. Since Jason was still pretty closed to it I put it aside for awhile knowing that when the time was right that I would know.
In October of 2007 I got a call from Jason one day saying that Comcast had just changed one of its policies. They use to reimburse adoption costs up to $3,000 and were changing it to $10,000 per legal adoption. After hearing this I got back on the internet and started researching international adoption again, because this meant that we would be able to afford adoption from the Philippines. Jason said to go ahead and start looking into it, but I think he was still far from consenting to actually adopting. After determining a few of the best agencies, we requested some information packets and right away I felt pretty strongly about one in particular-Wide Horizons For Children. After registering on their waiting children site we started looking through photos and we were both very touched by one photo in particular of a group of 3 siblings-2 girls and a boy ages 6, 7, and 9. Jason told me the next day that he couldn’t stop thinking about them and I had received a very strong answer to prayer about adopting from the Philippines. I thought at the time that it was for those kids, but I realize now that it was for that agency and for the Philippines. This was the first time though that Jason was excited about adoption and he was actually more into it than I was. He seemed to become very anxious and excited about the prospect of adopting these kids from the Philippines. I think seeing their pictures and remembering the kids that he saw on his mission living in some pretty horrible situations really touched his heart. We both knew that the Lord was telling us something and that the time was now right for our journey to begin. I don’t think we had any clue then just how hard it was going to be and we still have a long ways to go. The main reason I have for writing all of this is so that one day our child will understand how much the Lord loves them and all that He did to make sure that they ended up right where they were meant to be-in our family.
In October of 2007 I got a call from Jason one day saying that Comcast had just changed one of its policies. They use to reimburse adoption costs up to $3,000 and were changing it to $10,000 per legal adoption. After hearing this I got back on the internet and started researching international adoption again, because this meant that we would be able to afford adoption from the Philippines. Jason said to go ahead and start looking into it, but I think he was still far from consenting to actually adopting. After determining a few of the best agencies, we requested some information packets and right away I felt pretty strongly about one in particular-Wide Horizons For Children. After registering on their waiting children site we started looking through photos and we were both very touched by one photo in particular of a group of 3 siblings-2 girls and a boy ages 6, 7, and 9. Jason told me the next day that he couldn’t stop thinking about them and I had received a very strong answer to prayer about adopting from the Philippines. I thought at the time that it was for those kids, but I realize now that it was for that agency and for the Philippines. This was the first time though that Jason was excited about adoption and he was actually more into it than I was. He seemed to become very anxious and excited about the prospect of adopting these kids from the Philippines. I think seeing their pictures and remembering the kids that he saw on his mission living in some pretty horrible situations really touched his heart. We both knew that the Lord was telling us something and that the time was now right for our journey to begin. I don’t think we had any clue then just how hard it was going to be and we still have a long ways to go. The main reason I have for writing all of this is so that one day our child will understand how much the Lord loves them and all that He did to make sure that they ended up right where they were meant to be-in our family.
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